Friday, July 06, 2007

hang in there


"Hang in there" has new meaning for me . Usually the term is used to encourage....such as" hang in there" and everything will be alright in a little while.

My "hang in there" has to do with clothing. Bear in mind that this girl has been on crutches since May 19th. At that time I was literally swept off my feet (not by Prince Charming) but by a 6,000 pound Buick driven by an 83 year old who "didn't see me" walking in the parking lot.

My first reaction was of gratitude that yes,.... I was still alive. I knew I was still alive because absolutely everything hurt! After a wonderful ride in the ambulance to the nearest hospital and a series of x-rays I started a new life. My life of "hanging on to two skinny sticks" (also known as crutches) to mobilize my massive body to where ever I needed to go.

My second reaction was of great physical pain that set in the day after my accident, as every muscle and sinew in my body reacted to the physical trauma of being air borne over the hood of the car only to come crashing down on an unyielding, unforgiving payment." Oh well," I thought , "at least I didn't land on my face!"

My next "hang in there" was waiting. Waiting to see the orthopedist, waiting for an MRI, waiting to hear the outcome and waiting to schedule the surgery. ("Oh well, "I thought," at least I have my wonderful family to distract me and my beautiful grand baby to hold.")

The next "hang in there" was trying to hold it all together and not cry when every one left, under strict orders that if I cried, "Everyone else would lose it too."..."Oh great," I thought, "no pressure here! Now if only I knew how to hold back the great rush of tears that were threatening to explode out of every pore!"

The next" hang in there" was leaving for the hospital to have knee surgery. This was a stirring speech given to me by Mr. Wonderful who assured me, in between telephone calls to the mission, that all would be well . Needless to say "I was hanging on by a thread " at that point and promptly lost it! Down came the deluge of tears, fears, and anger that I was having to go through this ordeal and I should at least have his whole attention! (Hey, I never said, that I was rational!)

The next "hang in there" was by the orthopedist who told me he would see me in 3 weeks and that I should progress nicely. "Oh well," I thought," on to normal now."

So here I am in the newest "just hang in there!" Yes, it involves clothing that are not hanging. It has been 6 weeks since the accident and I'm still doing the "one legged ballet". Mr. Wonderful is still working full time and trying to do all the chores that need to be done on the home front. He is pretty good with keeping up with the laundry but not good at hanging it up. Once it has been washed and dried, it lives in a laundry basket on the floor of our bedroom.

Did I happen to mention just how much that irritates me?

I know that this is really majoring in the minors , but I don't like my clothing all wrinkled and I don't like having to hunt through the entire basket to find what I'm looking for while trying to lift the basket to the bed and balancing my entire body on two skinny crutches. Call me petty, but I am also really tired of being sweet and kind and understanding.

So.....I decided to forget "just hang in there" and HANG IT UP myself. Easier said, than done. It involved crutching with a rolling laundry hamper to the dryer, filling the hamper with the clothing, crutching and dragging said hamper to the bedroom, pushing full laundry baskets that are living on my floor aside with my crutch, grabbing hangers and sitting on the side of my bed folding clothes, laundry and putting shirts, blouses, and pants on hangers. After doing all that.....I promptly threw up! (Thankfully not on the clothing!)

So I'm hanging it up.....as in not trying any more!

If you look for me, I'll be the wrinkled one hanging on by my fingernails!

12 comments:

craziequeen said...

Hi Daisy, Michele sent me to see your story, I'm so sorry to see you have been through so much. Pain and uncertainty does so test one's mettle, don't you think?

Your description of 'holding it together' reminded me of when I was in hospital in Germany and they wouldn't let me fly home with my friends and I had to say good bye knowing I would be staying, not knowing a word of German and uncertain of my fate (as they hadn't decided if I had broken anything or not yet).

Dare I say 'hang in there, sweet Daisy' :-)

cq

Susan Helene Gottfried said...

Hi, Daisy! Michele sent me, too.

What a story! I can't believe you're so forgiving and positive -- not even a hint of anger toward that nice old lady who didn't see you; you're a better person than I am!!!

I wish I could come hang up your clothes for you. I'd be glad to. Heck, I just helped a friend go through her kids' toybox!

Stay positive; it's uplifting and amazing. And do your PT -- if you don't have any exercises yet, ask for some! We want you off those crutches as soon as we can!

Heal fast!

MorahMommy said...

Hi Daisy,

I'm sorry for what you are going through. Hopefully you won't need to hang in there for much longer.

Don't worry about the laundry...it will get done. I've learned that sometimes it just needs to be done and if someone else is doing just put a smile on your face and say thank you. I'm sure you look lovely in what every you're wearing.

I hope you're up and about and feeling better real soon.

Michele sent me today, but I will be back!

mompoet said...

Daisy, you have had more than a year's worth of ups and downs in the last few weeks. You are surviving this emotional and physical steeplechase like a real trouper. Your faith, your family and your awesome intelligence and sense of humour will continue to get you through this. I am inspired by you today and always. Your blog friend, mp

Jane said...

Oh sweet friend, I wish I could be there to help you. I am sure Melli will jump right in and help any way she can.....let her!!
I am send a great big hug your way. I promise it will get better!

Ladybug Crossing said...

Oh my Daisy... You poor thing!!
I'd come and help you with your laundry hanging, but then I'd feel too guilty about leaving mine in baskets.
(Kidding!!!)
Feel better!!!
xo
LBC

Crazy MomCat said...

Yes, Daisy, I'm with Ladybug. What excuse do the rest of us have? I haven't been hit by a Buick lately, that's for sure.

Oh, my goodness! I haven't been able to read my favorite bloggers much lately as I'm overwhelmed with 2 part-time jobs and 2 kids at home full-time. I had no idea about your accident!

Get WELL soon! And, no more just hanging in there--get well and CELEBRATE and have a grand ole' time, will ya?

Talk..to..Grams said...

Have a great time with Melli! I got tagged by Sandy and I tagged you cause I know you are Christian!So, when you get time Please go over to my blog and see what it all about!

Lindah said...

"the wrinkled one hanging on by my fingernails." Ha-ha. You still have your sense of humor--that's a good sign.
You are brave to let us all know how you are feeling. And, wow! You are one of us. Which one of us would not be fussin' and fumin' about being laid up as long as you have!!!
Really, Daisy, hang in there just a little longer. We're not going to give you permission to let go. And besides that, when you are sure you can't hang on any longer...Jesus is there to hold on for you. It's ok. He'll hold you up.
Blessings,
Lindah

Carole Burant said...

So I shouldn't tell you to "hang in there"??? hehe Oh dear Daisy, you have every right to become frustrated, this hasn't been an easy time of it for you at all. Sometimes when our body is trying to heal, we lose patience with it because it seems to take so much time. But, you have to remember, it can only get better now, right, not worse?? Here's a big hug (((((Daisy)))) to make you feel better:-) xox

Baba said...

Good Morning Daisy, I am still hanging,on..It will be 5 weeks since my surgery and I still use my walker.I will walk a little by myself around the house.We went out to eat last night and the hard chairs dug under my knees and hurt.It looks like time will go by slowly, until I can do what I want to do.We both will be over this soon and back to our old selves.Love ya, Baba

Ramblins of a middle-aged goddess said...

Some friend I am...You are there in pain and confusion and I am here in bed!! Yeap.I am sick now but I will get better soon. I would love to come and spend some time with You. If I could get Mike to bring me I would come. Just let Melli help you now while you have her to help you. She will help I am sure!! She is there for you while the rest of us wish that we were. Let her!! I miss you and wish I could be there. Sandy

 
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