Sunday, January 21, 2007

Telling Secrets already?

Just talked to brand new mommy who sounds incredibly tired and it brought back many memories I had as a first time momma far away from my family.

I love this picture as it looks like my daughter and her daughter are already sharing secrets!
I wonder if they are sharing a joke or two or perhaps Emma is already asking questions about world affairs and what the political situation is all about (my granddaughter is brilliant, we all know that!)

Whatever their conversation,they both looked really engaged in the discussion.

One thing that I remember as a new mommy is that I suddenly didn't exist any more. The world revolved around this new life and everyone was enchanted by our beautiful baby. Every conversation was about her, every one wanted to hold her, and I suddenly was an extension of her.

I remember running into friends at the grocery store a few weeks after her birth. The lady greeted me enthusiastically by saying, "How's Daisy this morning?" I was thrilled that someone had actually acknowledged me and was concerned about me! I responded , "I'm fine thank you and Becky is too."

"Oh, " she said, "I meant Becky not you".

Talk about having cold water thrown in your face! I missed being pampered and having someone to fetch and tote for me. I missed having someone tell me to sit down and put my feet up. I missed having someone fix the meals, wash the diapers and mostly I missed sleeping. I was so afraid that I wouldn't hear her cry even though she was in the bassinet next to our bed I barely closed my eyes.

Don't get me wrong, Mr. Wonderful did his best,but he would wake me during the night and say, "The baby needs you. I'd take care of her, but you know I'm not plumbed the right way." Then he would turn over and be snoring before my feet ever hit the floor.

As a first time momma I was as nervous as a long tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs. I did have a good friend and mentor who could always calm me down and would teach me what she called "old Indian tricks, that might help but definitely wouldn't hurt ".

So my darling daughter,take good care of you. Sleep when she sleeps, let Daddy take turns rocking and walking the floor. Close those big brown beautiful eyes of yours and sleep deeply so you can wake refreshed and ready for the challenges of motherhood. Taking care of you is the best way to take care of Emma.

12 comments:

Unknown said...

So nice of you to acknowledge your lovely daughter and the sacrifices she will be making for Emmalee, just like the sacrifices that her mother made for her. Sacrices joyfully made.

Irish Church Lady :) said...

Good advice Grandma, or is it Diva?

Melli said...

Truer words were never spoken! And do ya know... they are true about DIVA's too! Diva's who take care of themselves are MUCH better able to help care for the little one and darling daughter ... when the opportunity arises! YES! It's TRUE! Take care of you!

Muhd Imran said...

Talking from experience, wise words from a mother.

Your daughter is very fortunate to have a very loving mother and grandmother too.

Have a wonderful week ahead. Congrats again.

FRIDAY'S CHILD said...

That's a beautiful baby. And the momma looks very happy and contented. This reminds me too of being a first mom too.
Just visiting.

Unknown said...

A beautiful pair! Congratulations again Diva.

Terri said...

Beautiful words Diva.

Seeing Becky in that picture brings back all the memories of my first born, I could look in her eyes forever.

Jerry said...

Momma B, Becky told me that you had a post that made her cry. I just read it and shamelessly balled my eyes out, too. You described so well what the passed few days have been like. Becky is so tired. I can make the meals (or heat up what you made for our freezer), I can burp Emma, I can change her, but like Charlie said long ago, I can't breastfeed her -- which is taking so much energy out of Becky. I'll give Becky water and bites of fruit and muffins during some of the feeds, but it's the feeding itself I can't relieve. I know your very proud of your daughter already (it's a given), but I just have to say -- the strength and love she has for Emma is inspiring. Thank you for being such a great mother to my Becky.

Renee Nefe said...

*snif!* You're gonna be an awesome Diva! I wish my mom had been so worried about me instead of my daughter.

You've got some wonderful pictures of your granddaughter there. She's really cute.

Norma said...

I'm not sure this is a Monday Memory, but I'm reading it on Monday and I know it has resonated with many of us as we look back. They are both beautiful--just like Daisy!

My MM is up.

Susan said...

Beautiful memory...and what a great picture.

Have a wonderful week.

:-) Susan

Jake Silver said...

I know what you mean about fading into the background with the baby. Everything is about the baby.
But that's a good thing.

 
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