In a recent conversation with someone dear to my heart I was asked some very difficult questions on how to handle a situation where there are no answers and advice given has gone unheeded. The question is how long do you keep addressing the same problem if the person involved does not make any attempt to change.I wish I had a hard and fast rule that would apply in all situations but I've never found one.
I did however find these words of wisdom on Letting Go that I think might apply.
"Letting Go is not to stop caring- it means I can't do if for someone else.
"Letting Go is not to cut myself off- it's the realization that I can't control another.
"Letting Go is not to enable-but to allow learning from natural consequences.
Letting Go is to admit powerlessness-which means the outcome is not in my hands.
Letting Go is not to try to change or blame another-it's to make the most of myself.
Letting Go is not to fix-but to be supportive; it's not to judge- but to allow another to be a human being.
Letting Go is not to be in the middle, arranging the outcome-but to allow others to effect their own destinies.
Letting Go is not to be protective-it's to permit another to face reality.
Letting Go is not to deny-but to accept.
Letting Go is not to nag, scold, or argue- but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
Letting Go is not to criticize and regulate anybody-but to try to become what I dream I can be.
Letting Go is not to regret the past-but to grow and live for the future.
Letting Go is to fear less and live more.
Some times the best thing you can do is to do nothing. Praying always makes me feel better knowing that God has all the pieces of the puzzle and will make the right decision.
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Very GOOD advice. Did you write this for me??? I definitely needed to read it. Blessings to you sis!
Amen, Sister. I have stepped back from a few relationships over the years. I am there when I am needed, but I cannot become wrapped up in something that isn't going to change. When the thing changes, I'm back to support.
Does that make any sense???
LBC
Letting Go is the hardest thing to do for we humans. Great post friend but also great advice. You probably will help a lot of people today as you have already helped those above..take care..off to care for the Roberts brood...
I love this one... thank you soo much for posting. I needed to hear this this morning.
hey girl! I'm here via Beckie...and what an excellent post to open up with! :-) Do you mind if I "steal" this and use it sometime? It's so perfect for times when I've had to let go, and let God.
Blessings!
You go girl....that's one great post...I didn't write a Tasty Tuesday post today because I am having a total brain lapse...but I going to link to you!! I love this!!
This was very timely for me sistah! My hubby and I have been dealing with an ongoing situation with a family member of his and this was helpful. Sometimes 'letting go and letting God' is not only the best thing to do it is the ONLY thing you CAN do.
If you don't let go you will drag yourself down.
When I was a teenager I attended Ala-teen meetings. (my mom was an alcoholic) There they taught us to Let go, and let God. From that day hence, I have always thought of "letting go" as letting God take over. When it gets beyond MY capabilities, it's time to turn it over to someone that can REALLY do the trick! Maybe because I learned it so young in my life I feel like I really have "mastered" that philosophy. And it has come in handy soooooo many times! Especially in the raising of 4 kids!
GREAT post!
Hello, Michele sent me!
I loved this list of advice defining "letting go." Very nice.
I'm always glad to see people sharing things like this that help lift us all. :)
~S
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