Great Advice for People Pleasers

Reminders your people-pleasing self may need tonight: 

1. Nobody is mad at you. 

2. And if they are mad at you and you can’t think of anything you’ve done wrong, it’s not on you to read their mind and figure it out. You’re magic, but you’re not a magic 8 ball. 

3. Boundaries are healthy. 

4. Sometimes people will be disappointed in your decisions, or your words, or need to do what’s best for you and your family. It’s okay. Let them be disappointed. 

5. You aren’t a bad person. 

6. You in fact, won’t die if you tell someone no. 

7. Be kind. Be loving and gracious and good to people. But it’s not a sin to be unliked. 

8. Don’t change who you are to make other people more comfortable. 

9. If you apologize constantly—even when you don’t do anything wrong—you water down your “I’m sorry.” Are you really sorry or are you simply trying to smooth things over?” Make your apologies mean something. 

10. You’re okay.